Contrary to popular belief, the goal of a parent is not to raise children.
The purpose of a parent is to raise happy, independent, productive adults. What gets in the way? “Overparenting”. That is, the parent gets caught up in a vicious cycle of trying to make the child behave the way the parent thinks the child should behave. Instead, the parent should be providing guidance, support, clarity, and accountability that leads to success. Instead, parents get way too involved in the details of the child’s responsibilities, as if these responsibilities were the parents. “Did you do your homework?” Mom asks the 14-year-old for the third time that night. The parent is essentially micromanaging the child, telling the child what to do, how to do it, and then asking, “Did you do it?” This is not helping to raise an independent adult. In fact, it eats away at the child’s ability to figure out time management (competency development) and his/her academic self-esteem (confidence).
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